Characteristics of an intransigent person and how to treat him

A person who is uncompromising only pays attention to information that confirms what he believes. Is it possible to find strategies to dialogue with them?

Last update: May 23, 2022

The “no” comes first. The single, closed opinion follows. This is the kind of position that an uncompromising person assumes.

He has little room to listen to other people’s opinions or to modify your own ideas. Let’s see, then, what it is like to interact with someone who is closed to transformation.

How is an intransigent person?

It is a person who It is characterized by its extreme rigidity. Remains unchanged in their opinions or behaviors, even when the evidence or facts show that it is convenient to orient in another direction.

They are usually guided by the norm and the rule, with a sense of authority and respect for what is established. Almost dogmatic, they do not usually question what should be done, but rather take it as a parameter and follow it blindly. Also, they always want to be right and can be judicious.

Many times it is difficult to coexist with this type of personalities, since they tend to place themselves in a role of moral superiority. As an advantage (at least in some moments), a person who is uncompromising makes sure to stay in her comfort zone. Which implies certain stability and absence of shocks.

Nevertheless, is closed to learning, to new experiences. Therefore, intransigence is a double-edged sword, since it prevents adaptation. The changes are experienced with great anguish and discomfort.

It can also be difficult to dialogue or work with these types of personalities. They are only capable of seeing situations from their own lens, without incorporating other variables or information.

The intransigent does not listen to others, so he is not open to new opinions.

Some features

The main characteristics of intransigent people are the following:

  • They are not able to accept that there are other points of view or opinions.
  • They tend to pay attention only to information that confirms what they already know. So when faced with an argument that goes against what they believe, they will always try to play it safe. We could say that they are very conservative in their way of seeing the world and that they do not adapt well to changes.
  • Although they may seem like people with great security, sometimes that intransigence reveals some insecurity, since deep down, the unknown causes fear. That place of certainty is what makes them feel good and able to be in control.
  • Many times they get involved or have conversations only with the aim of questioning.
  • They tend to feel threatened by opinions from other persons. That is why they are on the defensive.

“The uncompromising attitude is more indicative of an inner uncertainty than of a deep conviction”

~Eric Hoffer – philosopher~

If you are an intransigent person…

Some recommendations to keep in mind if you recognize that you have this type of personality are the following:

  • You must discover yourself as such. You do not know how? For example, if you find that you tend to have many differences with people regarding your opinions, if you often hear that you are closedperhaps you can take these facts as the tip of the thread to explore your situation.
  • Try to don’t take every comment or discussion personally. It is not an attack against you. Simply, there is another person who thinks differently.
  • Try to listen to what someone else has to say, without interruptions. Ask questions to understand why he says it, without leading him to your explanatory models. When I speak, listen. Do not go ahead in what you want to refute or answer.
  • Think about where your rigid behaviors have gotten you. If the results of your posture move you closer or further from your goals and what is the cost of sustaining it until the end.
  • By last, stop justifying yourself saying “I’m like this”. People can also change if we are willing to do so.

If you must bond with an uncompromising person…

Choose which battles you want to give if you associate with someone intransigent. Don’t make it your goal to change someone’s mind like that. Rather think about what you have to solve with her and ignore the rest.

When you address the other, do not point out his intransigence as a trait of his person, but of his behavior or conduct. That is, avoid phrases like “you are intransigent”, since they usually close listening and generate threats. It’s better to tell “It seems to me that your way of seeing this matter is a bit closed”.

Take care of your emotions. talk to someone who makes it hard It usually triggers a cataract of emotions if we cannot manage them.

So it is important that you pay attention to how you feel and be able to express it. Beyond the fact that people can have a different opinion, do not allow disrespect. Be clear about the limits.

In conversations do not want to impose your vision of things. Prefers openness to value other opinions.

There is no single truth

In a conversation in which two people believe that their truth is absolute, it will become difficult to reach an agreement. The truth is that everyone has their own beliefs and thoughts, which are nuanced according to experiences.

Therefore, It is convenient not to take anything for granted or for obvious. This does not necessarily imply agreeing, but it does mean listening and respecting each other.

Finally, intransigence not only leads to intellectual impoverishment due to rigidity and closure. Frequently, it also ends in interpersonal conflicts.

Perhaps the objective is not that, but what is received from the other side tends in that direction. So it is important to note that opinions must be valued, beyond that we do not agree.

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