Sometimes the circumstances of life affect us greatly. Have you gotten lost on your way to achieve inner peace? We present 7 steps you can follow to recover it.
Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Elena Sanz on November 16, 2021.
Last update: November 16, 2021
The design of our current society seems to be incompatible with achieving inner peace. Living without stress, without worries, without anxiety or without emotional disturbances seems like a utopia. However, with some commitment and effort, you can achieve an internal harmony with which to face the events around you.
There are a couple of misunderstandings when someone considers achieving inner peace. Prejudices can prevent you from reaching this goal, or in any case abandon it in the middle of the road. At the end of this article we will show you some common mistakes that you should avoid, but before that we will present you 7 keys to achieve inner peace.
7 steps to achieve inner peace
There are many ways to achieve inner peace. In fact, The initial recommendation is that people go through several strategies until they come across the one that best suits their objectives.. As a reference you can consider the following steps.
1. Practice meditation
In general, when people think of meditation they associate inner peace at the same time. The relationship is not fortuitous, since studies and research endorse meditation as an ideal mechanism to promote it.
We can define inner peace as the state in which you are mentally calm. In the same way, this state allows you to deal with the emotional imbalances that you have to deal with on a day-to-day basis. All this you can assimilate through meditation, so we leave you with some ideas.
You can choose to do it at home or choose a session with several people. As we will see later, and with the aim of strengthening your social relationships, the latter will bring you greater benefits. However, you can learn the basics on your own and then choose to open up to a shared classroom experience.
2. Use your breath to your advantage
Breathing techniques are used to take control in particular situations. A study published in International Journal of Yoga in 2018 found that the practice of these exercises have a positive impact on stress. In addition, it improves the cardiovascular parameters of individuals.
Breathing exercises are often associated with meditation. Although they can be developed together, you can also choose to practice them separately. You can use slow, controlled breathing to manage the tension and stress of a problem so that you prevent your emotions and feelings from being startled.
Controlling your emotions is essential when achieving inner peace. In short, to make it invade your life you have to prevent emotions from controlling you. You can achieve this through breathing, something that will also bring you other benefits for your health.
3. Set limits in your life
Setting limits in your life is another of the steps to achieve inner peace. It is something that is talked about a lot today, but unfortunately it is very little practiced.
By setting limits we mean standardizing boundaries of behaviors or attitudes that you are willing to tolerate. All this because you have learned that they are not healthy for you, and because they make you restless.
We have already mentioned one in the previous section: stress. When you think you’re getting out of control, or just before it hits, it’s time to put your breathing exercises into practice. You have set a limit on how much you can tolerate, since you know that if you cross that line you can give way to lack of control.
This not only applies to emotions like resentment, hatred or resentment; but for everything in life. For example, for the treatment that others profess you, the level of work you can bear, the time of your leisure moments and others.
4. Embrace mindfulness
You’ve probably heard about mindfulness dozens of times. Also called as mindfulness, consists of being aware of the present moment. Said in this way it seems very easy, but the truth is that it is founded on very complex philosophical and spiritual ideas.
Mindfulness is a state that allows you to achieve many things, including tranquility, relaxation, and peace. In fact, and following the experts, mindfulness is one of the surest routes to inner peace. It is not something that you just assimilate, but what you must work on to achieve it. We leave you with some ideas:
Leave the past in the past. Don’t let your past mistakes and decisions negatively affect your present.
Make a commitment to your life.
Direct your life according to the things that bring you the most satisfaction and prosperity.
Be aware of the importance of valuing yourself.
Do not condition your life by what others think.
Reflect on your actions and behaviors. Be sure to pick up one teaching from each.
Don’t try to impose your thinking pattern on others.
Practice reflective listening.
Take care of the body and your mind alike.
This is just one example of how you can integrate mindfulness into your life. It is a whole process, one that you can also approach from different angles.
5. Avoid excessively blaming yourself.
It is very good that you reflect on what you have said or done, and that you manage to reap teachings through it. But a very different thing is that you are constantly looking for excuses to blame yourself. Experts agree that doing this can make you assimilate a victim attitude, which exposes you to the experience of abusers and manipulators.
You are not guilty of the mistakes of others, nor of what they say or do. You are only responsible for your actions, which you must always assume from critical thinking. Uncritically accepting responsibility for what others have done points in the opposite direction of achieving inner peace.
6. Don’t hold back emotions
Achieving inner peace does not imply prioritizing your positive emotions while repressing the negative ones. In fact, this classic division is blurred and gives way only to emotions. Because, in effect, the human being has a repertoire of emotions that are equally important to help him cope with one situation or another.
The problem is when you force your inner peace through emotions like joy and turn your back completely on others like anger. We have already talked to you about the importance of expressing your emotions in time, since repressing a feeling will always trigger negative consequences for the future.
It is a very different thing to repress an emotion and another to know how to control it. Don’t be ashamed to develop an emotion. These manifest themselves in a context, one that triggers it. What you should do is control it and prevent it from controlling you. Ultimately, you should cry when you feel like crying; but don’t cry all day.
7. Learn to forgive
Today forgiveness is distributed for free. People verbally say that they forgive someone when in reality resentment and resentment flood their soul. Is it easy to sincerely forgive someone? Of course not. It requires a lot of strength, maturity and humility; and it can still take a long time to do.
Learning to forgive then requires a lot of commitment, but its fruits can be appreciated in different contexts of your life. You can never have inner peace if you have suspicions of someone inside you, so you must let go of what happened and focus on the now.
Errors when achieving inner peace
As we promised you at the beginning, there are many mistakes or misunderstandings when it comes to achieving inner peace. We have chosen four of the most frequent and we comment them for you:
Believe that you can never be angry: Achieving inner peace does not imply always being happy or in a state of grace. Nothing is further from reality. We are human beings, and therefore we manifest a whole spectrum of emotions. As we have already pointed out, the secret is to control them and never choose repression. There is nothing wrong with being angry at a situation that makes you feel this way.
Thinking that you will be at the peak of happiness: achieving inner peace is not in principle related to happiness. Is it one of the ways to get there? It may be, it all depends on what you consider happiness and what makes you happy.
Act apart from those around you: it is a fruitless endeavor to pretend that you can have inner peace when everyone around you is at war. Your stability depends on theirs, so it is a good idea to mediate so that they also work on their own peace.
Don’t take it seriously: that is, take it as a game, a fad or something that may or may not work. Achieving inner peace is not something that can help you, it is something you need. If you keep a storm of chaos inside yourself, do you really think this won’t affect who you are on the outside?
With this last reflection we hope that we have helped you on your way to forge your inner peace. Follow the steps we have outlined and feel free to include many more. Remember that each process is different, so you must find what really gives you the peace of mind you are looking for.